My Personal (Couples) Story

I grew up intending to be a writer. But somewhere along the way, I realized that my passion for stories also translated into a great curiosity for how people think, behave, and interact.

In graduate school for marriage and family therapy, I learned a lot about counseling in general. But there was surprisingly little about couples therapy specifically. I took a survey course called (imaginatively enough) Couples Therapy. And that was it.

Out in the work force, I fumbled my way through, learning on the job(s), reading additional books, and then I met my future husband. Well, I hoped he would be my husband. For a little while there, it was touch and go, and that’s when I learned about emotionally focused therapy (EFT.) It changed my life, in more ways than one.

EFT was as effective as the studies had promised. We completed couples therapy and went on to get married. If it weren’t for EFT, we wouldn’t have each other, and we wouldn’t have our daughter.

And I want to bring that type of secure attachment to other people and their relationships. So I trained in EFT almost ten years ago, and it’s been my primary way of working with couples since.

I’m a true believer in what I do, one of the many success stories. I’ll do my absolute best to see that you are, too.